QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR FRIENDS WHEN EVALUATING HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE FRIENDSHIP (A HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP)
When was the last time I truly showed up for you & how can I show up for you moving forward?
What area of your growth would you like me to recognize & how can I support that growth?
Have I caused any unintentional harm, doubts, or discomfort & if so, when is a good time to discuss & remedy that?
What do you appreciate about our friendship, & what would you like for me to continue doing?
A FEW OTHER NOTES
Don’t let the pop culture version of well-being lead you into isolation: Ease does not mean lack of effort. Some of us are producing low-effort intentions, but expecting high-effort actions from our friendships. That’s not actually a friendship.
Adult friendships are different & it takes intentional effort to maintain them: I don't want us to forget that the friendships we truly cherish require maintenance. Working on your friendship is not a sign of failure or even difficulty necessarily. It’s a sign of love, growth, maturity, honesty, & a genuine investment in the healthy development of your relationships.
We give what we can give & sometimes, it may not seem like a lot: Analyzing how you show up in a friendship might also mean recognizing that you’re in a season that prevents you from showing up how you normally would. You might need extra grace, support, & understanding. In a secure friendship, communicating that is gold & your loved ones will get it.
